Great Expectations Dating Can Set You Up For Failure
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How long have you had great expectations, dating> only people you thought would be perfect for you? That’s a major reason why so many people think of dating> a new person as something to dread. Dating> really can be fun again if you’ll let go of a few outdated ideas. Try to change your perspective, and you might be pleasantly surprised.>
That’s not to say you shouldn’t go on a date with some great expectations. Dating> wouldn’t be much fun if you prepared yourself for disappointment every time you went on a date. But the type of expectations you have needs to change. Then you’ll start to enjoy dating> again, and it’ll be even easier for you to find that special someone.>
First, if you go on every date looking for a spouse, stop thinking that way now. Even if you’re just looking for a steady girlfriend or boyfriend, you should rethink it. You might very well find the perfect person by dating>. But going on dates with that expectation can certainly ruin the fun.>
When you go out with someone with that kind of great expectation, dating> becomes a process. It goes from a fun time with someone you enjoy spending time with, to some kind of try out for a mate. Even if you don’t say as much, the pressure is there under the surface. And that unspoken tension can ruin any date.>
Imagine if someone asked you out with that great expectation? Dating> them would make you feel like a bug under glass, wouldn’t it? You might be flattered at first, thinking they thought you might be marriage> material. But soon enough you might feel uncomfortably scrutinized, and rightfully so.>
Thoughts of marriage> shouldn’t really enter into dating> until you’ve been seeing the same person a lot. Even then it might be too soon. Usually you move from dating> to dating> them exclusively, and then to a commitment long before thoughts of marriage> enter into the picture. This is the best way to keep things fun, and keep your heart from being broken unnecessarily.>
So now that you see it’s best not to even think about marriage> or a serious relationship yet, you’ve freed yourself up to have fun dating> again. Date someone because you like that person. He or she interests you, and seems like a fun person to spend time with. It doesn’t have to be a serious affair.>
Ask your co-worker out to the movie you both want to see and just plan to have fun. Have great expectations, but only that you’ll have a great time, not that you’ll want to pop the question! If more comes of it, it’s a wonderful bonus. And you might find that with the pressure off, it’s actually easier for more to come of it.>
Finally, if you find you’re on a date with someone who’s looking for marriage>, don’t be discouraged. If you focus on your type of great expectations, dating> can still be fun, and you might even get them to lighten up a little.>
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